Welcoming families from around the world!

You are working in an early childhood setting of your choice—a hospital, a child care center, a social service agency. You receive word that the child of a family who has recently emigrated from a country you know nothing about will join your group soon. You want to prepare yourself to welcome the child and her family. Luckily, you are enrolled in a course about diversity and have learned that in order to support families who have immigrated you need to know more than surface facts about their country of origin.

                The family that is going to be joining my preschool is from Afghanistan.  In order to be culturally responsive toward this new family, I feel that there are several steps I will need to take to make them feel comfortable and welcome. 

                I will begin by researching Afghanistan’s dominant family culture; keeping in mind that just because this is the dominant culture, does not mean that my new family will mirror this image.  I would do this so that I could become familiar with gender roles in their society, so as not to intimidate or step out of line.  I would also want to know what the role of the child is and how they are expected to behave socially and perform academically.  For example, according to a web resource, Afghanistan men are considered to be the heads of the family.  Many families live amongst their extended family in a large building or a community of several houses.  The patriarch makes all the decisions, and his word is final.  This would be an adjustment for me culturally, because I usually refer to the mother with any issues I am having with a given student.  I would want to learn basic social cues from the culture, so that I may greet them appropriately, and in a way in which they are comfortable. 

                After conducting general research, I would send a letter and form to the family stating that we would like to get to know them better before they come and join our community.  I would ask questions about their family culture and what they enjoy doing together as a group.  I would ask for the child’s favorite book titles and toys, and about his friends from home.  I would inquire about snacks and food preference so as not to force the child into a situation where he or she would be eating something culturally inappropriate.  For example, Afghanistan families tend to maintain a diet of healthy foods such as fruits, vegetables, nan (a type of bread), and yogurt.  Many snacks that families may bring into a preschool would be unappealing or unaccepted by a child from Afghanistan. 

                In order to prepare my classroom, I would be sure to include some of the toys and food that the child enjoys, as specified by their parent’s responses to my inquiries.  I feel that it would be an important transition tool for the child to feel represented in their new classroom.  I would also set up an at home meeting with the family, so that I could meet them in their comfort zone and gain a better idea of who they are and what they wish to gain from the program for their child. 

In addition to preparing my classroom, I would also like to prepare my students and families for our new arrival.  I would show the students where Afghanistan is located on a map and ask if they’ve ever heard of the country.  We could talk about our biases and open conversation to what it must be like to enter a new country and a new school at such a young age.  We could discuss how we may feel if it were us, and ways in which we can make our new friend feel welcome and happy. 

                Lastly, due to cultural biases that come along with Afghanistan at this time, I feel that I would need to prepare my families for their arrival.  I would send home a notification that a new family would be joining us with information and a picture, (if permitted by the family).  I would refer them to me if there were any questions and encourage them to get to know the new family and set up play dates for the children.    

                I feel that all of these preparations would be beneficial to all parties involved.  It would help me to gain knowledge about a new culture that I know nothing about, and they will help the family feel wanted and respected.  In addition, it will also help my current families feel as though they are a part of the welcoming wagon and that they have an outlet for information if there are any personal concerns.  These preparations will allow me to continue building a happy, safe school environment in which every student, teacher and parent feels welcomed and empowered. 

References:

 http://www.afghanistans.com/information/people/wayoflife.htm

The Personal Side of Bias, Prejudice, and Oppression

                As a woman, I have experienced many incidents of prejudice, bias, and oppression in my life.  This mostly began once I started college in 2001.  As a freshman, I was excited to begin my life away from my family, friends, and hometown for the first time.  Growing up in a small town had left me completely unprepared for the hardships that I would face elsewhere.  In my town, my family was well known and respected.  I was Bob and Marilyn’s daughter; Shauna’s sister; a well-loved girl in a small community.  I had been relatively well-behaved and had never really gotten into trouble.  I was in many clubs and the Captain of my soccer team.  Going to college was going to be a new beginning for me; one I had been extremely excited about but relatively unprepared for. 

                Three weeks into my freshman year, I was sexually assaulted by a 19 year old fraternity brother.  In my opinion, rape is the greatest form of oppression a young woman can suffer.  It is an example of men literally forcing themselves on women and taking from them the one thing we all have the most control over; our body.  Suffering through this tragedy changed me in ways that I never thought anything could.  I began subjecting myself to situations that I previously would have never been a part of.  I was partying too much, and cutting my family out of my life.  I was ashamed of myself and my body and felt that because of what happened to me, I was unworthy of respect and love.  I began to let my appearance change; I darkened my hair and began dressing more provocatively.  I spent my time with people who were unhealthy and brought me to places that were scary and unsafe.  I no longer had any regard for my own well-being and felt that I was used up and dirty.          

                This boy took something away from me that I still have not fully regained ten years later.  This situation has diminished equity because it took away my ability to have a say in what goes on with my own body and who I choose to allow entrance.  In addition, it caused me years of suffering and has impacted every relationship in my life that I had then, and since.  Thinking about this incident brings up many emotions for me.  Even after ten years have gone by, I continue to feel stunted by this event.  I have yet to involve myself in a healthy relationship that is nurturing and have spent time with many men who have been unworthy of my affections. 

                In order to change this situation to bring about greater equity, I decided to speak out.  I began by attending Take Back the Night and spoke to over two hundred college students about what I had been through.  This sparked something inside of me; if I help other women who may be going through the same thing I did, what I went through would not have been for nothing.  I joined a Women’s Center through my college and involved myself in counseling young women that had suffered the tragedy of sexual assault.  After finally leaving Oswego, I was encouraged to begin telling my story to high school students in my hometown, which eventually led to me speaking out in surrounding towns.  Currently, I serve as an advocate for girls in my school who have been sexually assaulted.  I feel that by using this situation for good, I am giving back to the female community and helping to reclaim equity.  I want to encourage more women to speak up about the injustices and oppression they suffer so that our voices are heard and our pain is seen.  When recently speaking with a young girl who has just been raped I told her, “As hard as it is, the more you tell your story, the less it will own you.”

Practicing Awareness of Microaggressions

                “People watching” has always been one of my favorite pastimes.  After a long day at work, when I first began teaching, I used to go to the big mall that was located in my city and just sit and watch people walk by.  I’d hear little snippets of conversation between mothers and children, arguments between boyfriends and girlfriends, and juicy gossip between high school girls.  It wasn’t about being nosey, it was refreshing to step out of my own existence and enjoy listening to others. 

                Every so often, I would hear a conversation that was upsetting in one way or another.  One day, shortly after Obama had been elected president, I was sitting in that mall and watching a group of old men talk and have lunch.  I was sitting close to them, reading a book, and they had acknowledged that I was there and had smiled at me.  At the same moment, one of my students spotted me and walked over with his mother to say hi.  He was in third grade and black, and was wearing a t-shirt that had a picture of Obama on it.  The caption read; “I’m next.”  He gave me a big hug and I greeted his mother and him, then held him at arm’s length and complimented him on his shirt.  He beamed from ear to ear and the mother gushed about how amazing it was to watch Obama’s inauguration.  When they walked away, I went back to reading my book. 

                As I was reading, I heard one of the old men say, “Can you believe that?  Now they all think they can be president!”  Another responded with, “They won’t be smiling when someone assassinates the nigger.”  It must have been at that moment that they noticed me staring at them with my mouth hanging open.  The four men that had previously smiled at me all glared and turned their backs to me.  I grabbed my things and walked away.  I didn’t know what to say.  This was an example of a microassault.  It was intentional and meant to harm whoever could hear it.  

                It disgusts me that people are still capable of generalizing black people, as well as using that horrible word to degrade them as a group.  I have never thought myself different from or better than the black population in our country.  I proudly voted for Obama because he was the best candidate at the time; I didn’t care if he was purple with yellow polka dots.  However, it is not only the black population in our country that experiences racism.  Being a staff member in a school that is more than 90% black has made me a minority for the first time in my life. 

                Over the last few weeks, I have had a student teacher working with me in my classroom.  Her father is white and her mother is black.  She is a smart, pretty, young girl who attends a private University and works hard.  I had hoped she would be able to relate with my student body on many levels; she is near their age and she is black.  However, my students began to reject her from the moment she entered my room.  It began with sexual comments from the boys; which led the girls to resent her.  It later led to the girls constantly telling her how “white” she is.  They said she was “so white” because she attended a private university and because she’s a cheerleader.  They also used that against her because she’s smart and she can’t dance.  I spoke with a few of my female students about their microinsults and how they could be negatively affecting my student teacher.  One of them responded; “Miss Douglass, she isn’t like us.  She IS white.”  I was baffled at the fact that she was continuing the very stereotypes that so many black people in our country have fought against.  She was calling her “white” like it was a bad thing to be, and her reasoning was that she was smart, talented, and attended a university.  As if this was something that only white people could accomplish. 

                I am often speaking to my students about their stereotypes toward white people, and am very candid with them about the stereotypes that I was exposed to growing up.  I want them to see that just because someone was taught one thing, does not mean that that is what they have to believe and practice in their adult life. 

                Stereotypes, racism, and discrimination will always exist.  I have learned that the only thing I can do is to be the best person I can be and to teach my students that they should do the same.  I always tell them that they don’t need to like everyone; they simply need to be tolerant and respectful.  Everyone is a person, and everyone is entitled to being who they are.  A saying I have always disliked is, “I don’t see color.”  Of course you see color.  Everyone sees color; and to pretend that it is not there is disrespectful to the individual.  It doesn’t matter if you were raised to believe that interracial marriages are wrong, or that all white people are rich.  What matters is that we learn to challenge those biases by getting to know people from different cultures and ethnicities, and we learn to appreciate our differences and celebrate the fact that we are all on this earth together. 

Perspectives on Diversity and Culture

How do we define culture and diversity?

I chose to interview four people for this assignment.  The first was one of my students; an African American male in his early 20’s.  The second was a good friend of mine from college; a white female attending graduate school, pursuing a degree in Women’s Studies.  The third is one of my professional colleagues; a white female who teaches a very diverse population of students.  And the final person I interviewed was my sister.

Their definition of culture

1- “A way of life; the frame of mind you were raised in and the traditions you follow.” 

2- “It’s like a laundry list; language and food, history and our social understanding of the world.  It’s definitely influenced by history and politics.”

3- “I guess it’s the connotations of what a specific group of people have; the group could be a family, or people from the same area, or people who consider themselves a group.  Culture is what they do, how they act, etc. “

4- “Culture is an awareness of other ways of life.  If you “have” culture.  Culture, itself, as a noun, is a passion for your heritage.” 

Their definition of diversity

1- “Multiple cultures; like a melting pot; NYC.”

2- “Diversity…not white.  Basically like all different cultures and people together.  All the different parts that make up a whole.  Diversity is important because it helps us understand that it’s not a monolyphic culture.  There’s not just one way of seeing thing.  When you don’t have diversity, you can’t see outside of your own point of view.  Diversity helps us grow into a full person.” 

3- “Diversity is the differences in a group of people; color, race, sex, sexual orientation, etc.”

4- “I wouldn’t say that diversity has anything to do with race or gender, etc.  It’s just different ways of thinking.” 

There are many aspects of culture and diversity that I have studied over the past few weeks of this course.  It was refreshing to see that in each answer, culture was recognized as being a way of life; as something more than ethnicity and/or religion. For example, my college friend stated that culture is like a “laundry list.”  There is no one clear cut definition; it’s a compilation of things.  As one of my students stated, it includes “the frame of mind” in which we were raised.  We can have a very distinct culture without ever having been exposed to any time of religion or ethnic background.  Our culture can develop simply by the way in which our households were run, or the neighborhood we grew up in.  For example, I am Italian, but much of my culture has nothing to do with my Italian heritage.  Instead, my culture is based on how my family has chosen to raise me and spend our time together, the type of town in which I grew up, and the life my parents wanted me to have. 

Diversity, I feel, is a harder concept to understand.  My student, based on our entire conversation, seems to view diversity as more of an ethnic thing.  For example, it seems as though he believes that places such as New York City are what will help us best represent diversity.  In many ways, he is right.  Diversity is very visible in a place such as New York City.  However, I feel that diversity is also something that cannot be seen by the eye alone.  It is something that is present in a town of all white, Christian people.  There is gender diversity, religious diversity, economic and educational diversity; the list goes on. 

I feel that when combining all of the answers of those I chose to interview, no aspects of diversity and culture that we studied over the last few weeks have been omitted.  There was mention of family culture and group culture, which I feel includes dominant culture.  In addition, the definitions of diversity also were inclusive of all that we have discussed and read about; including both diversity that is easily seen and aspects of diversity that are invisible to the naked eye. 

                It has been interesting to hear of other people’s interpretations of culture and diversity.  I tried to choose a diverse population of people in my life in order to gain a broader perspective.  I believe that it emulates our diversity by the variety of responses that each person gave.  Each response is also reflective on whom that person is, their education, profession, and how they were raised.  Their definitions have not influenced my own.  I feel that the ways in which we interpret diversity and culture simply add to our unique culture and diversity.  I am interested to see what others have come to find through asking these questions to the people in their lives.    

My Family Culture

A major catastrophe has almost completely devastated the infrastructure of your country. The emergency government has decided that the surviving citizens will be best served if they are evacuated to other countries willing to take refugees. You and your immediate family are among the survivors of this catastrophic event. However, you have absolutely no input into the final destination or in any other evacuation details. You are told that your host country’s culture is completely different from your own, and that you might have to stay there permanently. You are further told that, in addition to one change of clothes, you can only take 3 small items with you. You decide to take three items that you hold dear and that represent your family culture.

If I had to leave my country and culture to go to a place very different from “home,” I would want to have a few things with me that reminded me of where I was raised and who I am.  After much thought about my family culture and social identity, and what I would want to take with me, I have chosen three items that I would not leave behind.   I would take a small photo album of family Christmas parties that my grandmother keeps with pictures of my entire extended family throughout the years; my stuffed animal that my parents gave me when I was four and had my tonsils out; and a cd of my father singing and playing guitar.

Christmas, in my family, is a big event.  Yes, there are presents, (and a lot of them in my crazy family), and there’s traveling and headaches.  But, every year when my entire family sits down to eat, all of that goes away.  It’s always been the one day of the year when everyone is smiling, telling stories, and sharing time together.  All of my favorite memories of my extended family during my childhood are at Christmastime.  I would want to keep those with me to remind me of the warmth we all share when we’re all together, and how lucky I have been to share so many holidays with the people I love. 

The second item I would be bringing is my stuffed beagle that my parents bought for me when I was four and had my tonsils out.  I had such a strong attachment to it as a child that my mother used to buy him t-shirts when we went on vacation and for Christmas every year.  I would want to bring it with me because it’s been a part of every big moment of my life.  As a child, I held it every time I cried and each time that I was sick.  It went on vacations with us and was in my purse when I went off to college.  It’s comforted me through lonely days and always makes me think of home.  It may just seem like a material item to many, but when I look at it, I see my life go by in moments. 

Lastly, I would want to bring a cd of my father playing the guitar and singing.  Every favorite memory I have with my immediate family revolves around my father’s guitar.  As a child, we would take out dress up clothes and my dad would sing silly songs while my mother, sister, and I would dress up and dance around the living room.  During family parties, my father would take out his guitar and people would crowd around and sing along with my family.  My father and I would sing in talent shows and Christmas pageants.  When I was 17, he taught me to play and encouraged me to perform.  In college, we would perform at a local open-mic together and my mother and sister would come watch; our biggest fans.  During that time, I would fall asleep to the sound of my dad playing Beatles songs over and over again in the room next to mine.  I have memories of my mom and dad singing to one another, and memories of my sister and I “tiptoeing through tulips” around the kitchen table.  Those are memories that represent my family culture to me in the fullest, and ones I hope I never have to lose. 

If upon arrival, I was told I could only keep one of the items I brought with me, it would be difficult to separate myself from the others, but the choice would be clear; I would bring my father’s cd.  The memories that come along with the other items are beautiful and would be greatly missed, but the moments I shared with my family through music represent much more to me.  Much of our interfamily culture has revolved around music and performance.  I feel that the most difficult item to let go of, however, would be my stuffed animal.  Although it’s a material item, I feel that it carries much of my family and personal history and I would be very sad to part with it. 

After completing this assignment, I thought about my family culture, diversity, and/or cultural differences.  I have come to the conclusion that, although my family does not have very distinct cultural celebrations and differences, we have developed our own special culture as a family.  We have unique traditions and memories that I truly believe many people do not have in their life.  I’ve had many friends spend time with my family and marvel at the idea of a nuclear family that stays together and loves one another, even though we have all grown into such unique individuals.  It is not our ethnicity or differences that define a family culture, it’s the moments that we share together in happiness and laughter that make us special.  And every evening, even as an adult, that my father pulls out his guitar to play is a night that sticks in my memory and makes me feel closest to my family. 

When I think of research...

                After taking this course, I feel that I have gained an immense amount of insight about the incredible effort it takes to create an effective, valid, and unbiased research study.  There are many steps involved, and various routes a researcher can take during the development process alone. 

I have learned that there are many aspects of a research study that need to be taken into consideration before it begins, during the process, and during the analysis of data collected.  There are ethical considerations, equity issues, researcher biases, and many other factors that could affect the validity of our research and the repercussions it could possibly have on our participants.  I have grown to appreciate research on a new level and the dedication that it certainly takes to be able to conduct equitable research effectively. 

“Research is about uncovering and enabling the emergence of new understandings, insights and knowledge.  The best research will always involve close, ongoing collaboration between those who plan the research, those who carry it out, those who participate in it, and those for whom the results have an impact.”  (Mac Naughton, Rolfe, & Siraj-Blatchford, 2010)  I have learned that designing research is a tedious process, if it is done correctly.  A researcher needs to be a thoughtful and patient individual who is dedicated to the improvement of the early childhood field.  I have also learned a great deal about how to develop research questions and how to remain unbiased when dealing with participants involved in the study. 

My greatest challenge was developing my research question.  I modified my question every week of this course.  After reviewing new material in our course book, I would gain new insight and change my question to include new perspectives or to make it more equitable.  At first, I was very frustrated with the constant changing of my question, but began to find that the more I read about research development and changed my point of view, the more sense my research simulation began to make. 

I feel that I have grown as an educator by experiencing the effort that is applied to research studies.  I have a stronger understanding as to how research studies are designed and how the data is used to benefit families, children, teachers, and communities involved in the early childhood field.  Early childhood professionals are loving individuals with an appreciation for young children and a passion for helping to provide them with the best possible education both in the classroom and behind the scenes. 

References:

Mac Naughton, G., Rolfe, S. A., & Siraj-Blatchford, I. (2010). Doing Early Childhood Research: International Perspectives on Theory and Practice. New York: Open University Press .

Early Childhood Australia

The Early Childhood Australia website provided me with a great deal of insight into research that is developing in their country.  There is a link that directly connects you to an index of their “Research in Practice Series.”  Australian early childhood educators are researching many similar topics as are being researched in the United States; learning through play, diversity, building confident learners, engaging families, language, aggression, etc.  There was even research being done about how to practice sustainability in your classroom.  I found this particularly interesting, since I used to teach at a nature-based preschool.  Connecting our children to the environment should be a universal obligation and I was pleased to see that this awareness is spreading across the globe.  Childhood health and obesity was also a highlighted research topic that I was happy to see on the website.  I had previously thought this was an extremely “American” epidemic, but clearly it is all across the world. 

It was surprising to me that childhood obesity is covered in Australia media more than any other early childhood topic.  I had previously thought that American children were the only ones that were up to their ears in media, video games, phones, etc.; thus immobilizing them and encouraging the development of childhood obesity.  Most of the links pertaining to childhood obesity are dedicated to providing parents and childcare providers with information on how to keep their children active and eating healthy.  Most of the habits we develop in early childhood carry with us into adulthood.  Developing healthy eating and exercise habits will encourage Australian youth to continue these ethics into their later years.  It is my hope that American parents are becoming as aware of this epidemic, and actively seeking ways to keep their children healthy. 

Many of the links provided on this website sent me to abstracts and brief descriptions of books available on each topic.  It is necessary to be a member of Early Childhood Australia in order to receive all of the information.  The goals and objectives of this organization are extremely similar to those of NAEYC.  I am interested to hear how others interpreted this website, and possibly found better ways to navigate it.  Does anyone have a membership?  I would love to be able to view some of the articles and information.